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if there are two events that i dread attending, they will be funerals and weddings.  i hate going to funerals because of the intensity of the drama there, and the lachrymal showdown has never been my thing.  i hate weddings for an entirely different reason.  i can’t fully explain it, but when i attend a wedding, it never fails to give me a post-ceremony depression.  perhaps, weddings make me envious.  or maybe i’m just so cynical about the whole love thing.  anyway, years ago, i vowed never to attend weddings, but year after year after year, i get invited to be a groom’s man, a role which i am fated to play the rest of my life, or i’d get to be the commentator, a role which i have almost perfected and one that i could play to the hilt.

last saturday, i attended the wedding of my dear cousin slash best friend, liezl.  i had thoughts of boycotting the wedding because i knew for a fact that after her wedding, our relationship would never be the same again.  we would be very busy catching up with our adult lives that we wouldn’t have enough time to just sit down, talk, and laugh at the silly situations life throws at us.  but i figured her wedding was one of her big days, so what the heck, i decided to indulge her.  i even went the extra mile by accepting to be the commentator.

while i was watching her walk down the aisle, i felt a chill down my spine.  it was an indescribable feeling.  part of me wanted to shout (in a really theatrical way), "itigil ang kasal!"  but when i saw my cousin’s beautiful face (i swear, i haven’t seen her more beautiful), when i sensed the serenity and happiness that she felt, i knew that the only thing i could do was to be happy for her. 

losing liezl to marriage is somewhat unexpected.  this is a crazy thing to say, but in our family, the two of us were seemingly predisposed to single life.  we had somewhat accepted our fate that a few years ago, we made a promise–no, a pact that should neither one of us get married, we’d set up a house together, so when we’d retire, we’d have a house where we could have afternoon tea and cake.  we didn’t close the possibility that one of us would get married though.  so we extended our pact with a clause that should either one of us get married, the married party shall reserve a room in his/her house for the single one.  at this point it is clear who is who.

although i felt a bit abandoned by liezl’s decision to get hitched, i am genuinely happy that she has found somebody to grow old with.  guess, i just have to quote ally mcbeal when she said, "when i see two persons in love, they remind me that love still works."